Thursday, September 8, 2011

The New Status

Apparently the Final Pleadings have been filed and I am once again
a free woman, although I've not seen the Final Paperwork
with all of the Final Signatures.
Final Final Final.

Divorce is ugly.
It gives birth to anger and all sorts of unwished-for sentiments.

I hope you are never faced with it.

It has dragged a tonnage of sadness into my world, which lingers,
having set up house deep in the heart.
In my heart.

And now here's a space for silence:

And that about wraps it up.


  1. Dear T
    Sitting with you in the silence and in the heart.
    Remember the hummingbirds?
    L, C xo

  2. If you still have something small that belonged to him, go bury it at a crossroads.

  3. I am bringing into the silent space a short and stout cut crystal vase that is filled to overflowing with freshly cut blue hydrangeas. Ridiculously blue.Now iI am tip toeing quietly away and inviting you to breathe deeply and take in all of
    the spaciousness in the space.xoxo My word verification was buxacat, lol.

  4. I can't find any words of my own with which to respond at this moment so I will borrow some:

    In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. Our life is a long and arduous quest after Truth.
    --Mahatma Gandhi

    I wish you ever more clarity, T. Clear, and--despite the path's arduousness--also new happiness.

  5. Dear darling T;
    Time will heal you. It will.
    Take extra care of yourself and leave room for miracles to happen. They will.
    I am happy for you. You didn't deserve that kind of clutter and now it's gone.
    Ima Hapyferyu

  6. Like you I remain so sad and baffled by this.

    Hugs to you my dear, who have carried yourself with such class through such an awful, undeserved ordeal.

    Wishing you peace, joy and love.

    Love, C.

  7. Final isn't the only word that starts with "F"....(no, not THAT one). I refer to think, to be, to create, to find your way in a brand new world. Take time to heal and then, sail Forth. Good thoughts are headed your way.

  8. T., you and I have know some unstable are now finally free of another one. Of course there is sadness and grief, the dashing of dreams that one hoped were true.

    It turns your world upside down and inside out...take awhile to trust again and I hope you come to really appreciate the gifts you have been given: insight, the love and fidelity of true friends, clarity. You have been set free once again, and life will be good once more.

    It all sounds trite, I know, but I wish you love and hope from the bottom of my heart.

  9. Even though I'm the one who left, I felt the same. Mine has dragged on for over three years now, perhaps because we needed this long to forgive each other.

    All things pass, the good, the bad, the sad, the joyous, even anger. Anger seems to have more staying power though. But it will pass.

    I like the space for silence. I need to make space for that in my life.

  10. The space for silence, something which we rarely find in adequate supply, a fitting response to sadness taking up residence. There is no way to say it but that I've been through this twice. The hollowed-out parts may add character, they certainly teach compassion. We may even be enhanced by the patina of wear we acquire. I am sorry for all you've gone through. The hydrangeas, just right. xo

  11. Dear friends, far and near: you are the ones who stood beside me, day after day, and helped to lead me through this storm.

    My blessing to each of you, to those you love, and to those that love you.


  12. Fill that silent space with your quote:
    "We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."

    Heart-full with hope for you T.

  13. I'm grateful for you and for your ability to convey what you do so eloquently. May you find peace and ease.

  14. well, dare i say congrats? the sadness will linger, but better perhaps to be free of the man who didn't deserve you, onwards. i send love and wishes for an easing of the heart space.