Sunday, June 9, 2013

Requiem


All of the house became an altar for her wake: her paintings on every wall, photographs from her many years of living, bouquets of flowers on every surface. I could imagine the gardens from which they were gathered, from across the city, June gardens overflowing with renewal.

In the bedroom, where she lay, a row of candles lined the windowsill above her head, and her body, in repose, was framed in flowers of every kind: roses, peonies, foxglove, allium. I gasped when I saw her, grateful to have witnessed this scene of exquisite devotion. She was more beautiful than a Frieda Kahlo painting.

In the yard, in the late afternoon sun, were tables of food, wine, whiskey, beer. Her passing, just that morning, was as present as oxygen, and it seemed as if everyone breathed tentatively, the loss so sharp still, so tender.

Her mother, who, at 94 looked so frail she might blow away, or tip over, held a bouquet of lavender roses on her lap. Her two daughters moved through the crowd like lilies in a breeze, soft, wounded.
Her husband seemed a barely held-together vessel of broken glass, jagged.

Luminaries from the local glass-blowing community were present, as were friends from the many threads of life in which her spirit was entangled.

A man with bagpipes arrived, played Raglan Road, Danny boy, a Celtic jig — oh, so many of us wept when we heard that music, in the way that music has of penetrating every defense. And we were thankful for it — that release.

I was on my way to the ballet, and had to leave before the rest of the musicians arrived — the fiddlers, the guitar players, the banjo players — before the fire that would blaze into the night, before the musicians gathered around her bed to play for her one last time.

But before I left, I placed this poem — typed and mounted on card stock — on the kitchen table altar:

 
Remembering Connie

Sitting beside her, day after day
painting leaves and stems
on sandblasted vessels
while I babbled on about something,
who knows what, I’ll never remember —
she reminded me that sometimes
just silence is okay. And so we let it sit
between us, a comfortable pause
that came and went unannounced
as each of us settled
into our private reveries.

When we cleared away the palettes,
the sap-green tubes and perylene maroon
to make a space for lunch, most days
she offered a cookie, half a slice
of rhubarb pie, spoonfuls of fragrant soup.
It’s good, isn’t it? She always said.
And my happy mumble, my mouth-full thanks
for what needed no words.

And though her chair is empty now,
her paint-splashed apron
retired to a hook,
it’s in the hushed afternoons
when I’ll hear her, in the quiet
brushstrokes, all that was
not necessary to say,
and yet understood.


 

Dear friend, we miss you already.

10 comments:

  1. What a moving tribute to someone who meant so much.

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    1. Thank you John, for taking the time to visit, and to comment.

      Best,
      T.

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  2. oh, this tribute is beautiful. I am sorry for the loss of your friend.

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  3. What a moving send-off...we should all be so lucky to be escorted this way. So sorry you've lost such a wonderful soul. xo

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  4. This is a very beautiful tribute to your friend, T. I am so sorry for your loss. You speak of her with such delicacy.

    I read the other day a short piece by Nelle Morton in which she wrote of 'the urgent, tender work of love'. Your poem is an echo of the same energy - the last stanza, especially.

    '. . . it’s in the hushed afternoons
    when I’ll hear her, in the quiet
    brushstrokes, all that was
    not necessary to say,
    and yet understood.'

    Much love xo

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  6. Such a loving and quiet tribute to your friend. I especially like this part --

    she reminded me that sometimes
    just silence is okay. And so we let it sit
    between us, a comfortable pause
    that came and went unannounced

    And the quiet ending that will stay with me for some time. Reminds me also of this week's hub poem, also a tribute to a dear one, in this case Sam Rasnake's father, in the poem "Some Last Things". I like it when poetry can be so personal, and yet universal in the way it communicates and moves an audience beyond the writer's own experience (I suppose that's the point). Your poem does that for me as well. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Michelle, thank you for these kind words. And yes, that is the best kind of poetry, I think, the personal which reaches into the universal. Thank you for recognizing that in my words.

      xoT.

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  7. Such a loving and quiet tribute to your friend. I especially like this part --

    she reminded me that sometimes
    just silence is okay. And so we let it sit
    between us, a comfortable pause
    that came and went unannounced

    And the quiet ending that will stay with me for some time. Reminds me also of this week's hub poem, also a tribute to a dear one, in this case Sam Rasnake's father, in the poem "Some Last Things". I like it when poetry can be so personal, and yet universal in the way it communicates and moves an audience beyond the writer's own experience. Your poem does that for me as well. Thank you for sharing.

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  8. A lovely tribute to your friend.

    I think silence is hard. You were both lucky in your friendship.

    Cx

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